You Can't Get There From Here: Pathways to Emotional Intimacy in Relationship
People seeking relationship help come to therapy thinking one of three things: (1) they think they are doing something wrong or feel they...
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Lisa Blair
- Jun 29, 2021
- 7 min
Stop Trying to Be a “Good” Partner and Start Being Yourself
Here’s my first piece of advice when it comes to cultivating emotional intimacy in your relationship. Stop trying to be such a good...
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Lisa Blair
- Jun 25, 2021
- 9 min
Are We There Yet? Reimagine Emotional Intimacy as a Process
Have you been feeling emotionally distant from your partner? Would you like to bridge that gap? Or are you at your wits’ end and ready to...
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Lisa Blair
- Dec 14, 2020
- 6 min
The Dance of Diversity in Relationship
Diversity is a normal part of life and ought to be celebrated. Not just in nature, culture, and the world, but inside ourselves and in...
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Lisa Blair
- Nov 1, 2020
- 6 min
Book Review: "Eight Dates" by Dr. John Gottman, et al.
Gottman, J., Gottman, J. S., Abrams, D. & Abrams, R. C. (2019). Eight dates: Essential conversations for a lifetime of love. Workman...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Jan 20, 2020
- 4 min
A Story About Emotional Intimacy, Trust, and Going All In
I was talking with a female friend recently who just entered into a new relationship with a man. How they met each other was unplanned...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Sep 7, 2019
- 4 min
That's the Thing about Love: My Personal Awakening to Emotional Intimacy
It’s spring 2009 in Portland, Oregon. My partner, David, and I are nestled close under the covers with a laptop on our shared lap. It’s...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Jun 30, 2019
- 9 min
It's Me, Not You: When Relationship Work is Personal Work
Perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned about sustainable relationships is this: People have a tendency to confuse the need to work...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Mar 29, 2019
- 7 min
Trusting Yourself in the Face of Authority
We’ve all found ourselves here at one point or another: We give another person (often an authority figure, but it can be anyone we meet...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Feb 1, 2018
- 1 min
Therapy Under Five: Getting Hurt / Who's Responsible?
Here's my third video in a new series I'm calling "Therapy Under Five." It's done Q&A style—in each video I read a question I've received...
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Lisa Blair, M.A. and David Bedrick, J.D.
- Oct 26, 2017
- 8 min
Embracing Diversity in Relationships: You, Me, and All That Stuff We're So Scared Of
How do we shift from a phase of unity and harmony in our relationships to embracing diversity? How do we be our true selves with another per
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Lisa Blair, M.A. and David Bedrick, J.D.
- Aug 29, 2017
- 7 min
When Relationships Fall Apart: Conscious and Unconscious Agreements in Relationship
Every relationship has two handshakes: one above the table and one below. The first handshake is a conscious agreement between the two...
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