People seeking relationship help come to therapy thinking one of three things: (1) they think they are doing something wrong or feel they...

Here’s my first piece of advice when it comes to cultivating emotional intimacy in your relationship. Stop trying to be such a good...

Have you been feeling emotionally distant from your partner? Would you like to bridge that gap? Or are you at your wits’ end and ready to...

Diversity is a normal part of life and ought to be celebrated. Not just in nature, culture, and the world, but inside ourselves and in...

Gottman, J., Gottman, J. S., Abrams, D. & Abrams, R. C. (2019). Eight dates: Essential conversations for a lifetime of love. Workman...

I was talking with a female friend recently who just entered into a new relationship with a man. How they met each other was unplanned...

It’s spring 2009 in Portland, Oregon. My partner, David, and I are nestled close under the covers with a laptop on our shared lap. It’s...

Perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned about sustainable relationships is this: People have a tendency to confuse the need to work...

We’ve all found ourselves here at one point or another: We give another person (often an authority figure, but it can be anyone we meet...

Here's my third video in a new series I'm calling "Therapy Under Five." It's done Q&A style—in each video I read a question I've received...

How do we shift from a phase of unity and harmony in our relationships to embracing diversity? How do we be our true selves with another per

Every relationship has two handshakes: one above the table and one below. The first handshake is a conscious agreement between the two...