Lisa Blair
Love on the Rocks: The Uncertain Fate of Emotional Intimacy in Postnormal Times
Lisa Blair Transformative Studies, California Institute of Integral Studies, San Francisco, U.S.A. CONTACT: lisablair@me.com This is an...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Jun 30, 2021
- 8 min
You Can't Get There From Here: Pathways to Emotional Intimacy in Relationship
People seeking relationship help come to therapy thinking one of three things: (1) they think they are doing something wrong or feel they...
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Lisa Blair
- Jun 29, 2021
- 7 min
Stop Trying to Be a “Good” Partner and Start Being Yourself
Here’s my first piece of advice when it comes to cultivating emotional intimacy in your relationship. Stop trying to be such a good...
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Lisa Blair
- Jun 25, 2021
- 9 min
Are We There Yet? Reimagine Emotional Intimacy as a Process
Have you been feeling emotionally distant from your partner? Would you like to bridge that gap? Or are you at your wits’ end and ready to...
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Lisa Blair
- Jun 24, 2021
- 8 min
Who Are You Really? The Roles We Play in Relationship
When you reflect on your intimate love relationship in your mind’s eye, do you see yourself feeling and behaving like your true authentic...
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Lisa Blair
- Jan 4, 2021
- 11 min
Can You Hear Me? The Art of Listening
We’ve all heard it before. Really listen to your partner. Be present. It’s one of the most popular pieces of relationship advice out...
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Lisa Blair
- Dec 14, 2020
- 6 min
The Dance of Diversity in Relationship
Diversity is a normal part of life and ought to be celebrated. Not just in nature, culture, and the world, but inside ourselves and in...
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Lisa Blair
- Nov 1, 2020
- 6 min
Book Review: "Eight Dates" by Dr. John Gottman, et al.
Gottman, J., Gottman, J. S., Abrams, D. & Abrams, R. C. (2019). Eight dates: Essential conversations for a lifetime of love. Workman...
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Lisa Blair
- Oct 1, 2020
- 2 min
Book Review: "Big Magic" by Elizabeth Gilbert
Gilbert, E. (2015). Big magic: Creative living beyond fear. Riverhead Books. “Are you considering being a creative person? Too late, you...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Apr 14, 2020
- 6 min
Therapy Under Five: Connect with Your Essential Nature & Shift Your Mood
When clients come to me struggling with a general kind of mental malaise, a persistent low or down mood—also known as a mild chronic...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Mar 27, 2020
- 14 min
Therapy Under Five: Highly Sensitive People & Transitions in the Time of COVID-19
As we all struggle with our new and constantly changing reality of living in a world with COVID-19, I want to speak about transitions and...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Mar 14, 2020
- 3 min
Therapy Under Five: Self-Soothing for Anxiety
We're entering a new reality with the advent of the coronavirus or COVID-19. Our world is rapidly changing and this can bring on anxiety,...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Feb 28, 2020
- 1 min
Therapy Under Five: Happiness
We all want to life a happy life, but sometimes happiness feels so elusive. In this Therapy Under Five video, I offer a few tips on how...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Jan 20, 2020
- 4 min
A Story About Emotional Intimacy, Trust, and Going All In
I was talking with a female friend recently who just entered into a new relationship with a man. How they met each other was unplanned...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Nov 4, 2019
- 5 min
Part II: Your Happiness, Your Dreams: The Importance of Establishing a Morning Routine
Especially if you’re a woman, if you don’t already have a satisfying and sustainable morning routine, I encourage you to develop one....
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Oct 27, 2019
- 7 min
Part I: Your Happiness, Your Dreams: The Importance of Establishing a Morning Routine
I’ve never been a morning person. I’m a classic night owl. Growing up, my family sometimes called me “the Bear” because my morning...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Sep 7, 2019
- 4 min
That's the Thing about Love: My Personal Awakening to Emotional Intimacy
It’s spring 2009 in Portland, Oregon. My partner, David, and I are nestled close under the covers with a laptop on our shared lap. It’s...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Jun 30, 2019
- 9 min
It's Me, Not You: When Relationship Work is Personal Work
Perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned about sustainable relationships is this: People have a tendency to confuse the need to work...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Mar 29, 2019
- 7 min
Trusting Yourself in the Face of Authority
We’ve all found ourselves here at one point or another: We give another person (often an authority figure, but it can be anyone we meet...
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Lisa Blair, M.A.
- Feb 8, 2019
- 6 min
To Accomplish or Not to Accomplish?
Does Achievement Contribute to Our Sense of Self-Worth or Diminish It? Lately, the subject of accomplishment is coming up a lot in my...
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