Couples' Private Consulting
with Lisa
There are couples who have sat across from me and said afterward that they have never in their lives had a conversation like that one — with each other, or with anyone. Something shifts when a third presence in the room is both deeply attuned and completely unafraid of what’s true.
Real intimacy is rarer than we admit — and more frightening. Not closeness for its own sake, but the kind that can hold conflict without breaking, desire without losing sovereignty, honesty without cruelty. The kind that asks both people to keep becoming, even when becoming is uncomfortable.
That is the territory I work in. And I am not afraid of it.
You've come to the right place if:
— You’re committed to each other and want more than what you currently have
— You’re caught in patterns of conflict that leave you feeling further apart rather than closer
— You want to understand each other more deeply — not just coexist
— You sense that something real is possible between you and want help getting there
— You’re ready to be honest, even when honesty is uncomfortable
What we work on together
Conflict as Doorway
Most couples come to conflict management hoping to fight less. What I offer is something different: the understanding that conflict, approached with skill and courage, is one of the most direct paths to intimacy available to you. We don’t work to eliminate conflict. We work to move through it — toward each other, toward something truer.
Emotional Intimacy & Connection
The full complexity of how two people love and are loved. How to speak what has been unspeakable and hear what has been unheard. How to stay genuinely close — not just physically present, but known.
Sovereignty & Togetherness
How two people can be deeply connected without losing themselves in the process. How your individual needs, desires, and becoming are not threats to the relationship — they are the lifeblood of it. How intimacy and sovereignty are not opposites.
Communication
Not just speaking more clearly, but developing the capacity to be with each other in the difficult moments — the ones that once sent you into silence, or into war. Meta-communication skills, nervous system awareness, and the ability to stay present when presence is hardest.
What this isn't
This is not long-term therapy, trauma treatment, or crisis care. My consulting work is focused, expert, and process-oriented — with individualized attention shaped entirely around you and your relationship. If clinical therapeutic support is what you need, I’m happy to refer you to trusted professionals.
My Approach
What I bring to this work is rarely found together: scholarly expertise in emotional intimacy and romantic partnership, more than 17 years of clinical experience as a psychotherapist, and a doctorate from the California Institute of Integral Studies — where I researched, lived, and went as deep as anyone into the question of what intimacy actually is, what it actually requires, and what becomes possible when we stop settling for less than the real thing.
My approach is an alchemical blend of the scholarly and the somatic, the clinical and the intuitive, the ancient and the rigorously contemporary. It is at once grounded in Process Work (Process-Oriented Psychology) — a depth-oriented, socially-aware, and body-aware framework developed by Drs. Arnold and Amy Mindell — and deeply informed by the Unshaming work of my partner, David Bedrick. What I practice goes beyond non-judgment into an active, devotional belief in the removal of shame from what you carry: the beauty, power, and wisdom that shame has kept hidden, and the deep river of your own process that has been waiting for a witness who does not flinch. To this I bring my own intuitive knowing — my connection to the Goddess, to ancestral wisdom, to the ways of knowing that live beyond the rational mind. And all of it is informed by over two decades inside my own committed partnership, knowing intimacy's shadow as well as its beauty.
I work collaboratively with both of you to increase self-awareness, expand relational skills, and navigate the edges of emotional intimacy. I will see each of you clearly — sometimes piercingly so — and I will see what moves between you. I bring to bear not only everything I know, but everything I feel, sense, and intuit — the full range of how I receive you. Each session centers on what you bring: conflict, communication, desire, distance, differences, or the wordless thing you haven't yet found language for.
What moves through this work is not only expertise. It is love — a deeply held love ethic that runs through everything I am and everything I do.
What you can expect
As we work together, you'll begin to notice:
— You feel more known by each other — and more willing to be known
— Conflict becomes somewhere you can go together rather than something to avoid or survive
— You develop language for what has been wordless between you
— More joy, desire, and the feeling of being genuinely chosen by each other
— The ability to stay fully yourselves while staying deeply connected
— A relationship that feels, finally, like the one you knew was possible
"Our sessions with Lisa are an inspiring, intimate invitation to deepen our loving for one another. She is an astutely skilled listener, tracking what emerges in awareness in an organic way with effortless, sensitive flow. We are often surprised and deeply touched by what we share and discover together. We consider it a privilege and great joy for us to work with Lisa."
— M.M. & K.G., Albuquerque, NM
Private Consulting - Couple
Single Session
$425
80 min · Zoom
3-Session Package
$1,200
3 x 80 min · Zoom
Must be used within 3 months
Free 20-minute introductory call — included for those whose applications are accepted.