Three beliefs people bring to therapy that may be standing in the way of the connection they most desire.

Here’s my first piece of advice when it comes to cultivating emotional intimacy in your relationship. Stop trying to be such a good...

Have you been feeling emotionally distant from your partner? Would you like to bridge that gap? Or are you at your wits’ end and ready to throw in the towel? Don’t give up before reading this post. You may be asking, “Why are we so bad at this? We screwed up again. When are we going to get it right?” It’s not you; we’ve all been misled about how romantic relationships should work especially when it comes to emotional intimacy. Although many of us unconsciously believe otherw

Diversity is a normal part of life and ought to be celebrated. Not just in nature, culture, and the world, but inside ourselves and in...

I was talking with a female friend recently who just entered into a new relationship with a man. How they met each other was unplanned...

It’s spring 2009 in Portland, Oregon. My partner, David, and I are nestled close under the covers with a laptop on our shared lap. It’s...

Perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned about sustainable relationships is this: People have a tendency to confuse the need to work...

Here's my third video in a new series I'm calling "Therapy Under Five." It's done Q&A style—in each video I read a question I've received...

How do we shift from a phase of unity and harmony in our relationships to embracing diversity? How do we be our true selves with another per