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Lisa Blair, M.A.

You Can't Get There From Here: Pathways to Emotional Intimacy in Relationship

People seeking relationship help come to therapy thinking one of three things: (1) they think they are doing something wrong or feel they...

Lisa Blair, M.A.

It's Me, Not You: When Relationship Work is Personal Work

Perhaps the most important thing I’ve learned about sustainable relationships is this: People have a tendency to confuse the need to work...

Lisa Blair, M.A.

Trusting Yourself in the Face of Authority

We’ve all found ourselves here at one point or another: We give another person (often an authority figure, but it can be anyone we meet...

Lisa Blair, M.A.

Therapy Under Five: Getting Hurt / Who's Responsible?

Here's my third video in a new series I'm calling "Therapy Under Five." It's done Q&A style—in each video I read a question I've received...

Lisa Blair, M.A. and David Bedrick, J.D.

Embracing Diversity in Relationships: You, Me, and All That Stuff We're So Scared Of

How do we shift from a phase of unity and harmony in our relationships to embracing diversity? How do we be our true selves with another per

Lisa Blair, M.A. and David Bedrick, J.D.

When Relationships Fall Apart: Conscious and Unconscious Agreements in Relationship

Every relationship has two handshakes: one above the table and one below. The first handshake is a conscious agreement between the two...