Are you longing for deeper connection and emotional intimacy in your relationship?
You've come to the right place.
I help women and couples bridge emotional distance with clarity, confidence, and relational fluency.
"Lisa Blair is truly brilliant and exceptionally capable, widely skilled, dynamically flexible, and an overall badass. If this resonates for you, consider this a sign."
—Ruby C.H., Coach, Humbolt, CA
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Do you want to feel closer to your partner—to bridge the distance and isolation between you—but it feels overwhelming or too scary to tackle it on your own?
I provide collaborative coaching and guidance for women and couples seeking to build or rebuild emotional intimacy with their partner. I combine scholarly expertise in emotional intimacy, over 15 years of clinical experience, and more than two decades in my own committed relationship to support you with clear, practical, and deeply transformational relational work.
You'll find me to be a trusted advisor and fellow intimacy traveler, someone who understands the subtleties of relationship communication, the edginess of conflict, and the need to be your most empowered, free, and sovereign self in relationship while also caring for your unique nervous system.
Every relationship has challenges.
Conflict, distance, and ups and downs are natural even in strong partnerships. What separates couples who grow together from those who drift apart is awareness, communication skill, and the ability to turn conflict into connection. My work helps you cultivate these strengths — not by making conflict disappear, but by transforming it into opportunities for deeper closeness.
But why does emotional intimacy feel so elusive?
That's because even highly self-aware people bring unconscious patterns, learned defaults, and painful relational history into their partnerships. These patterns can show up as defensiveness, miscommunication, or old fears that interfere with genuine connection.
This is where I come in.
My work helps you identify these unconscious patterns, understand their origins, and replace them with sustainable, relationally generative ways of being. I bring an expertly trained, unshaming, and depth-oriented presence that helps you see what you might miss in your closest relationships. I support you with tools, language, and embodied skills so you can show up more authentically, confidently, and relationally fluent — both with your partner and within yourself.
This Work Is Right For You If:
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You want intentional, relational insight and real tools for change
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You’re committed to self-awareness, honest communication, and mutual growth
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You want to deepen connection and handle conflict with confidence
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You’re ready to explore emotional intimacy beyond comfort zones
What This Isn’t: This coaching is not long-term therapy; if you need trauma-specific, crisis, or diagnostic clinical work, I’m happy to refer you to trusted clinicians.
In our sessions, we may explore...
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Where you get "stuck" with partner and why your inner critic shows up, leaving you feeling frustrated and hopeless rather than empowered and optimistic.
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What triggers fear, withdrawal, or defensiveness and how to navigate it—when you feel unseen or misunderstood by your partner and you need loving witnessing.*
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How unmet needs shape your communication—when you may be unconsciously expecting your partner to "read your mind" rather than having to speak your needs and desires more directly.
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How old relational patterns (e.g., parent projections) affect closeness. We can explore how to remove those misplaced projections from your partner so these needs can be met without placing an undue burden on your relationship.
Skills and strategies you can expect to build:
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Meta-communication (i.e., how to talk about your communication)—a highly effective way to build greater intimacy.
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Conflict navigation as a path to intimacy rather than a threat to feeling closer. You'll learn how to take your own side more effectively, how to genuinely take your partner's side, and how to become more fluid so that your conflicts become opportunities for greater emotional intimacy.
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Awareness of outdated relational patterns and how to transform them and how to connect with the wisdom and messages embedded in those patterns that are still longing for expression.
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De-escalation skills when disagreements get too intense.
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Confidence in speaking needs directly and setting healthy boundaries.
*My partner, David Bedrick, developed the concept of the loving witness in his pioneering work on Unshaming.
As we work together, you'll start to notice...
You feel more seen, known, and understood around your deepest, most private feelings, especially as they appear in your relationships.
You feel a growing confidence in yourself and your ability to navigate challenging spots in relationships that once caused you anxiety or hopelessness.
Your relationship feels more nourishing and satisfying because you are able to get your needs met and set boundaries that care for you.
You feel more joy and satisfaction in your relationship and more of the yummy in-love feelings towards your partner.
You know that you can be more of your authentic self while in relationship rather than having to choose between authenticity and connection.
You have a growing pride in how much you, your partner, and your relationship have grown over time.
You may even feel a profound, divine connection with your partner. You revel in the spiritual or cosmic "rightness" of your connection.
My Coaching Approach:
I work collaboratively and deeply with you to clarify relational questions, increase self-awareness, and expand communication and conflict skills — all grounded in an unshaming approach, depth psychology, process-oriented insights, and lived relational experience. Together with my unique blend of high sensitivity, intuition, empathy, and divine feminine wisdom, I focus on increasing clients' self-awareness, self-love, personal power, freedom, confidence, intuition, and the ability to engage in emotionally intimate relationships.
Clients are invited to bring one central issue or guiding question to each session—something they would like support exploring in their relationship life, or in their inner life as it relates to their relationships.
Topics we might explore together include:
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Conflict, fear of conflict, or recurring problem areas
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Communication challenges
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Jealousy, anger, or resentment
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A desire for clearer boundaries
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Autonomy and sovereignty
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Freedom and empowerment
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Sex, intimacy, and sensuality
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Inner criticism, self-hatred, or internalized oppression
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Any other topic connected to your relationship life
Who Thrives With This Work
My coaching reaches women and couples around the world — from the U.S., Canada, Europe, Africa, Asia, and Australia. My most effective work is done with clients who are ready to do focused personal and relational work with curiosity, courage, and openness. They are keenly motivated to expand their self-awareness and self-expression.
Many of my clients are coaches, therapists, and healers themselves who wish to explore their own romantic partnerships.
I also offer case supervision to practising therapists, coaches, and healers, and those in training. I welcome students from David Bedrick's Unshaming courses and facilitation training program, the Process Work Institute and other PW Centers around the world, Sigourney Belle's Soma Mystica trainings, and the Somatic Institute for Women.
All racial and ethnic backgrounds and sexual orientations
are celebrated and welcomed.
Important Note: I am an independent consultant and coach — not licensed as a therapist. This work is not designed for focused trauma therapy or diagnostic clinical care. If your needs are clinical, crisis-oriented, or require a licensed therapist’s specific training, I can help connect you with trusted professionals.
Flexible Coaching Options:
One-off sessions and short packages designed to meet your needs and support progressive growth. If my style and approach resonate with you, I offer a free 20-minute Discovery Call on Zoom before proceeding to ensure we are a good fit.
1 Session
$300 individual
1 hr. Zoom session
$440 couple
1 hr. 20 min. Zoom session
Payment via PayPal
Payment required at least 2 business days prior to session.
3 Sessions
$825 individual
3 x 1 hr. Zoom sessions
$1230 couple
3 x 1 hr. 20 min. Zoom sessions
Payment via PayPal
Payment for 3-session package required in full at least 2 business days prior to first session.
Must be used within 3 months of purchase.
"Our sessions with Lisa are an inspiring, intimate invitation to deepen our loving for one another. She is an astutely skilled listener, tracking what emerges in awareness in an organic way with effortless, sensitive flow. We are often surprised and deeply touched by what we share and discover together. We consider it a privilege and great joy for us to work with Lisa."
—M.M. & K.G., ALBUQUERQUE, NM
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